What does it mean when a man says I love you? Maybe it depends on the person saying it?
Sometimes those three words mean absolutely nothing when not backed by the actions that convey them. Sometime those words are used to manipulate some one just to hang on a little longer to give a little more time to figure out what you want to do. Maybe you think you love them, but when the rubber hits the road, you are 1000 miles away in your heart from her. You are always looking in the review mirror, leaving her in a cloud of dust. Focused on your own face in that mirror and how important you are. Consumed by what is best for you and how you might be inconvenienced by her being around. She is just a rough road to unwanted pressures and commitments.
However, have you thought that maybe right around the corner as you leave your “loved one” behind, there is someone else waiting to jump into your place? Someone who see’s the beauty inside of her. Leaving their desert for the green pasture that you just couldn’t see when it was in front of you. The life that had seemed so hard to you, but with some effort could have grown into something so beautiful if you had just gave it all of your attention no matter how difficult and self sacrificing it seemed. Love is not supposed to be selfish, it is supposed to be self-less. Selflessness sounds so negative, but what treasure could you really have when you make someone feel like they matter?
Once someone told me “I’m all in.” I had to ask again what he said because I wasn’t sure I heard him correctly. “I’m all in!” Those three words meant so much more than “I love you” ever did. I’m all in conveys it all. Not only did he mean it, but he shows it every single day. He takes care of us like he is all in, he talks to me, listens to me like he is all in. In return all I hear in my heart is “I love you, I love you, I love you.” He makes me feel safer than I’ve ever felt. Not just by words but his actions, his energy and motivation. It’s not all consuming, selfish love that is smothering. It’s inclusive to his whole family, his children, my children and his friends.
My husband is all in for making up for past mistakes
He’s all in for creating the life he always wished for regardless of what others might think
He’s all in for finding every way possible to get home to see his family even if it means working 12 hour days until pure exhaustion
He’s all in for being available even from a distance
He’s all in for doing things the right way and to the best of his ability whether that be a project or time spent with others.
Never have I met someone who was so selfless balanced with knowing who he is and exactly what he stands for. He may do things his way, but who says we have to do things the way others negate? Do they have the same experiences we do? Do they have to walk in our shoes? No. We are not promised tomorrow, so why not do things the way our heart prods us to as long as it is good and brings peace to our spirits?
I’m all in. Those three words get my attention every time.